You’ve probably already heard that there are ways to improve your sex life, have better orgasms, or a stronger relationship. But how common is it to hear about real ways to do this?
Fortunately, adding a sex toy to your life is a great way to achieve all of these goals. For those who have never used a vibrator, it can be intimidating to imagine buying one.
You won’t want a crappy toy that will break right away, but you might fear investing money and not enjoying your product. And you can’t exactly return a sex toy!
So, how are you supposed to go about purchasing your first vibrator? As with any other item, there’s an entire spectrum of quality when it comes to vibrating sex toys.
It’s important to do your research so you end up with a good match. Below, I’ll list some essential tips for choosing your very first toy. That way, you’ll be satisfied with your choice (again and again).
Decide Why You Want One
Before you buy a vibrator, think about how you’ll want to use it. Is your main goal using it alone or would you rather have something your partner can enjoy with you? These questions are important to think about before you make a selection.
I’d generally recommend that sex toy newbies get one to use by themselves. This will give you a chance to get to know what you like. Then, you can invite your partner to join you for the fun. Once you’re comfortable with solo play using a toy, you can even venture into couple’s toys.
Good beginner vibrators include options that are simple to use and have unintimidating shapes. A huge dildo is going to be a lot scarier for a first timer than a small clit-stimulating bullet, for example. And you may be surprised at how much power a small toy can deliver.
Find Out What You Like
The next step for choosing the best toy for you is getting a sense for what type of sensation you’re seeking in your vibrator. The best way to do this is to think about how you usually masturbate.
Do you tend to focus mostly on the clitoris, or do you prefer penetration? Maybe you like to apply both types of stimulation at once by using both hands. Whatever the case, there’s a toy out there that will satisfy you.
Even though many vibrators have a phallic shape, there aren’t many women who are able to climax from penetration alone. Some toys offer penetration and are curved specifically to hit the G-spot.
Since most women require stimulation on the clitoris to reach climax, you will probably want to pick a toy that stimulates this area directly. If you prefer direct stimulation on your clit, you can use basically any vibrator. If the area is too sensitive for that, you can find a vibrator that cradles it instead.
Think About Safety
Safety is important no matter what you’re doing, and this also applies to sex toys. The sex toy industry isn’t as regulated as other industries, so some companies take advantage of this by using cheap materials that aren’t very safe for your body.
As a general rule of thumb, you should avoid vibrators for women that have a strong chemical scent or are listed as “for novelty use.” If it has a strong chemical scent, it may have phthalates or other unsafe chemicals in it that can harm your body.
Toys that say they are only for novelty use are being marketed as something that won’t actually touch skin. That means that it probably hasn’t been tested to make sure it’s safe for use in your private area.
Fortunately, it’s easy to find high-quality toys made with body-safe materials, such as silicone.
Check Them Out in Real Life
Many women prefer to buy sex toys online for the discretion and anonymity, which is totally fine. However, if you want to get a better idea of what you may like for a vibrator, consider checking out a local sex toy shop in your city.
This type of shop will most likely have some products available for you to look at, switch on, and get more information about. If you aren’t too shy, you can ask the store clerk for answers to your specific questions about the products.
You can still decide to buy your new friend online, but you may feel much more at-ease about the purchase after having seen it in person.
Check User Reviews
One great way for finding out whether you’re making a good choice with the sex toy you’re considering is to check what previous purchasers have to say about it.
Many reviewers take the time to write out pro/con lists and detailed feedback to help other potential shoppers with their decision. Everyone’s body is different, and what works for you may be different than what works for other ladies.
However, reading reviews can give you a general idea of what to expect with a toy. For example, you can find out about battery life, comfort of use, and potential drawbacks to be aware of.
Get an Option with Many Settings
While you’ll probably be fine getting a simply designed toy for your first vibrator, I recommend picking an option that comes with many different vibration settings.
There is a plethora of vibrators out there that come with several vibration settings in addition to pulsing options (from slow to fast). Having a lot of options to choose from right away will help you find out exactly what you like instead of having to settle for “good enough.”
A great way to find out how the settings work on a toy you’re researching is to read reviews (as mentioned previously). Another option is to thoroughly look over the manufacturer’s information on the toy website.
Look into a Programmable Vibrator
Vibrators are great; they allow you to experience sensations that would be impossible with just your hand. But this can also make it harder to shop for them.
Even if you’re quite experienced with masturbation, it’s difficult to predict which type of vibration you’ll most enjoy (especially if you’ve never experienced vibrating toys).
This is where programmable vibrators can be a great help. Certain brands offer options that you plug into a USB port, giving you access to an online interface. Here you can adjust the patterns of vibration to your specific tastes and upload them to your toy.
You’ll be able to experiment with your selections and change them to find what you most prefer. This is a great choice for adult toy newbies who are still figuring out what they like most.
Go for Quality
While it’s tempting to cut corners and get a cheap deal when you’re shopping for any item, you will want to shell out some extra dough for a vibrator.
I recommend spending at least $50 for your first vibrator. Although this sounds steep, a higher price tag typically indicates that the company is using safe materials. But don’t forget to check to make sure.
More expensive toys are also likelier to last longer and come with a good warranty in case you encounter problems. Although it may sound frustrating to spend a lot on a vibrator, you’ll thank yourself later when you get to know your high-quality product.
Don’t Forget to Buy Lube
In the world of sex toys, lube is an essential ingredient. In fact, it’s equally important as the vibrator you end up using. There are several reasons for making sure you get lube, such as reducing friction and increasing pleasure.
Lube also makes masturbating with a toy safer. Although your body already provides natural wetness, you’re using the vibrator with your most sensitive areas. It’s best that you add additional slipperiness to avoid discomfort, or even worse, injury.
And lubricant offers an extra benefit for older women who may experience vaginal dryness by supplying wetness for you.
I recommend using a water-based lubricant with vaginal stimulation, since it’s easy to clean up and works well with your vagina’s natural lubrication.
Silicone or oil-based lubricants can also work well, but make sure they are compatible with the material of your toy first. And keep in mind that these types of lube require soap to wash off, while water-based lube can just be rinsed with water.
As you can see, choosing your first vibrator doesn’t have to be difficult at all. Now, you just have to decide which product you’re going to get. This is an exciting time for you and you’re about to completely change your sexuality by taking this next step. Good luck!